Self-love

Self-love is important for change!

Do you like looking in the mirror? Do you like yourself the way you are? Whether with love handles or a swim ring? Dream figure or not, do you feel good in your own skin? You don't care what others think of you? My answers were all "NO"! I was so dissatisfied with myself and felt very uncomfortable in my own skin. The time was probably right; one day I was confronted with the topic of "self-love"! Someone I was talking to said to me: " You have so many problems buried inside you that you don't even see yourself!"

I began to open myself up to it and one day I stood in front of the mirror and looked very closely and consciously at my reflection. I asked myself, if I were to meet myself on the street, how would I see myself? That was a really important question for me, one that truly opened my eyes. It was about dealing with myself, perceiving myself, accepting myself as I am, without any ifs ands or buts! Realizing that the meatball also has an inner life, one that was, however, surrounded by complete darkness! I wanted to know who I was, to get to know myself. So I "opened myself up" to it, as the saying goes, and set out on my journey.

A basic seminar on the topic of “personal development” shook me up and shook me through and through.

I learned to enter into silence, experienced receiving others' full attention, and much, much more, which was completely new territory for me. The most striking experience in this seminar was writing down the past, down to the smallest detail. Hallelujah, emotions were released in the process. Individual tears turned into small torrents, forcing me to interrupt my writing. I wrote pages upon pages of rubbish off my chest. While writing, I was able to examine and accept the individual situations closely. This helped to heal many old wounds.

The time was ripe for another life lesson. " If you don't love yourself, you can't love anyone else!" That preoccupied me a lot and led me on the path to finding my "self-love." One thing had become clear to me by now: the journey goes "INWARD"! Somehow I couldn't seem to find inner peace; as soon as I closed my eyes, my thoughts started racing. More and more, I felt the need to go outside into nature. I took long walks through the forest or sat in a beautiful spot by a lake and simply let the peace and quiet work on me. The wonderful nature distracted my thoughts, and little by little I was able to calm down. One fine morning, I looked at my reflection in the mirror for a long time and intensely. It was so aloof and cold, I realized that there was no love to be found in it. I caught myself changing the reflection. I was already familiar with the gloomy and sullen face, but what if I smiled a little? So I started moving my facial muscles, and somehow I felt so silly that even my facial muscles were laughing. Laughing did me so much good, and I felt like a different person. From then on, I practiced my laughter training in the mornings, and when I was out and about, a wonderful sense of relaxation gradually came over me. I realized I was in a much better mood and went through my daily life with a smile on my face. Often, a smile returned to me. My self-love went so far that I had a photographer make posters of myself, and from then on, they decorated the walls of my apartment. I couldn't get enough of them until one day I had visitors... "I've never seen anyone with so many, and especially such large, photos of themselves on their walls." It didn't bother me at all; I was so proud of my posters. But at some point, it stopped being important to me, and so the posters came off the wall. The outside world is no longer relevant to me!

The path towards “self-love” continued!

After my morning ritual: looking at my reflection in the mirror and accepting it as it is. Not to forget my "laughter" training, which had become very important to me. I felt the need to hug myself, to do something good for myself. The feeling of being alone was completely gone; by hugging myself, I felt like I was receiving a huge dose of affection. These hugs were repeated several more times, and at some point, I heard myself say that I loved myself. An indescribable warmth flowed through me, which I would have loved to hold on to forever. It was such a beautiful experience, and from then on, I felt a much stronger sense of self-confidence. What other people thought or said about me from then on no longer mattered. Since I changed myself, the people I met have changed too. What I send out comes back! If I send out a smile, a smile comes back to me!

Little by little I worked on the topic of “acceptance”!

Whatever I noticed about myself that I didn't like, I took a closer look at it and accepted it as a part of me. I understood more and more what was going on inside me! Because I didn't want to see all the "negative" things in and about me, they attracted all the energy. Some situations literally got out of hand. It was only when I started paying more attention to these " shadows" , looked at them intensively and accepted them as a part of me that the change began. I became aware of something else! As soon as I then recognized the positive aspect, the "negative situation" lost its energy. In the end, every situation was only half as bad or resolved itself!

"All of this was and is a long, no, lifelong process! If I've truly learned one thing, it's that EVERYTHING comes in its own time. NOTHING can be rushed!"

laughing is healthy